Dissatisfaction

Human dissatisfaction seems to be common, but the reasons for it are not so clear. Despairing cries take many forms. One can see anguish printed on some faces and others looking peaceful despite appalling deprivation. Life often seems to be synonymous with stress and uncertainty while peace and tranquility are more closely associated with death. What we call "work" is a large part of our lives, but there is ever-increasing talk about declining personal satisfaction in the workplace.

One place we search for satisfaction is in our conversation. An issue/problem/topic/concern arises out of conversation when there is a feeling of dissatisfaction about it. When it has in fact been satisfied, it disappears from conversation.

What is our conversation about ? We are self-referring beings and, though our conversation often seems to be about some external reality, on closer examination, it is about our own experience which we are trying to explain. In that sense conversation is about itself.

What is the nature of a satisfying relationship ? What would have to happen for us to say that we were satisfied or that we understood ? Could we ever be completely satisfied ? And should we ?

While poets and artists have captured the deep yearnings of human experience, the biological, medical and social sciences have not had the tools to explore these very well. But science is shifting with the steady acceptance of constructivism in psychology.

These changes deal with dissatisfaction and yearning directly. The prevailing mode of thinking about reality with its absolute requirement for external validation is a primary source of dissatisfaction and "the quest for a compelling argument" and it actually confounds our sense of human understanding.

The biology of gene pools has diverted attention away from the integrity of the individual, but the biological explanation of self-sufficiency / interdependence helps to restore this imbalance.

Information technology has distracted us from sensory awareness, perception and reflection and the importance of "making the connection''. Fears of "information overload" will be allayed as our experience on the internet provides the opportunity to see that connection, not information, is what matters.

The focal point on human intention and causality is an intellectual hubris that has clouded our spirituality (not the other way around). Recognition of the basic biological need for "co-drifting" and love (a domain of behaviors in which others arise as legitimate others in co-existence with oneself) offers great hope.

 

 

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